Margaret Aghaeepour, PsyD
Maintaining High Quality Relationship During COVID 19 "Shelter In Place"
Quick tips for maintaining a healthy relationship during the Coronavirus Pandemic, survival guide for the dating, married, and divorcing couples
How to Deal with Emotional Problems for Couples Under the Same Roof, 24/7?
Create a healthy space for each other, I mean actual physical space and mental space, don’t feel the pressure of having to be with each other 24/7.
Recognize and map out each other’s triggers.
Recognize how conflicts/ arguments are reinforced each time, for example, do we push each other’s buttons, do we stonewall/or ignore our partner, do we mock each other?
Listen to each other’s emotion.
Remind each other that you love and care one another.
Cool it off, and it's OK to do so.
In the Middle of a Divorce? But Have to be Under the Same Roof?
1. Create a healthy space in the house, area when we can each maintain your independence at this level.
2. Only discuss when both are ready and emotionally stable, have a contract with each other that you can stop the topic when it gets too heated. Keep in mind, divorce is a long process that needs both to compromise, it is hard to achieve that when any one partner is triggered.
"Shelter In Place" Date Ideas:
Structure your workday, have lunch together.
Plan a romantic dinner at home for your partner.
Have a board game day at home.
Create an indoor picnic.
Bake cookies together.
Teach each other how to do something new, like cooking a certain meal or a new skill.
Go for a walk or a hike.
Gottman Card Deck. This fun app offers helpful questions, statements, and ideas for improving your relationship.
Have a video game tournament.
Binge watch favorite TV series and/or movies.
Snuggle up and read together.
Have a romantic day in bed, exploring each other’s bodies and trying new sexy things.
Have a wine and paint night.