Sex Therapy in California
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in Menlo Park, CA
What is Sex Therapy
Sex therapy is a form of therapy intended to help individuals and couples resolve sexual difficulties, such as performance anxiety or relationship problems. I provide brief or long-term sex therapy for individuals and couples using an integrative theoretical approach. My style is warm, collaborative, and strength-based. With an integrated approach, I work with clients with respect and compassion. I utilize evidence-based practice and the most-updated research to develop treatment plan that is unique to your specific needs.
Clients generally meet in my office, while some choose to have some online session if traveling is difficult for the individual. Sex therapy can be for both individuals and couples. I generally meet with my clients weekly or biweekly depending on their needs and functioning.
It’s normal for clients to feel anxious when seeing a sex therapist, especially for the first time. Many people have trouble talking about sex at all, so discussing it with me as a stranger may feel awkward. However, I try my best to make my clients feel comfortable. Often, we start with questions about your health and sexual background, sex education, beliefs about sex, and your specific sexual concerns.
It’s important to know that sex therapy sessions do not involve any physical contact or sexual activity among clients and therapists.
Area of Expertise
I specialize in helping individuals and couples with relational and sexual concerns.
Physical and emotional sexual pain
Low sexual desire
Mismatched desires and needs within a couple
Delayed or impaired orgasm
Reasons People See Me for Sex Therapy
"I'm too scare to have sex"
"Is ________ normal?"
"Sex is too painful"
"He can't keep it hard"
"She's too tight"
"I can't make her orgasm"
"I masturbate too much"
“I’m a sex addict” or "He's a sex addict"
“I climax too fast”
“I can’t get or keep erections”
“I don’t orgasm during sex”
“I watch too much porn” or ”He watches too much porn”
“I am not sexually interested in my partner"
"I don't feel sexy enough for my partner"
"My partner is not into me"
My Story and Mission in Sex Therapy
I am proud to be one of the few Asian American AASECT certified sex therapists across the US, and maybe the only one providing sex therapy in Mandarin Chinese and Cantonese Chinese in the whole United States. Let's say this is not a career path people from my cultural background would normally pursue. Become a sex therapist was not a light choice, it is a choice motivated by my past pain, values, and the silent struggles of sexual wellness in the Asian American community.
In my early years of clinical training, I shared frustration with many of my individuals and couples facing relational and sexual challenges. There was a lot of shame and stigma (unfortunately there is still a lot nowadays!) associated with unhappy marriage and sex. Many times, when my clients expressed concerns about sexual dysfunction, pornography, or intimacy, I wish I had the skills and knowledge to help them heal instead of referring them out to a sex therapist. The referral process was especially hard for my clients of Asian American descent and immigrant clients. They already had mustered up their courage to raise these concerns. Talking with a new therapist about their marriage and sexual concerns was unimaginable. The referral process was extremely difficult for my monolingual Chinese speaking clients. This was the driving force of me developing a specialty in relationship and sex therapy. I am committed to make sex therapy more accessible to the Asian American community.